Jan 1st, Control & Choice

The single most important practice in Stoic philosophy is differentiating between what we can change and what we can’t. What we have influence over and what we do not.

The first daily stoic resonates so much to me that I know I need to remind myself that there are things that I can change and influence to change; while there are also things that are beyond my control.

Waking up as early as 4.30 am is definitely not simple, but I have the control to actually show up at my desk at the same time every single day. What I can’t change is if life happens (yes, it is not perfect) and I didn’t wake up the same time 5 days in a row. What had happened and past, are the things that I can’t change and undone.
It works as an affirmation to me that it is okay to let go what is past but it is within my control to learn the history, make the difference and change the future.

No matter how hard you try, you can’t make someone like you.

Always been self-aware that I am a people pleaser and always saying “YES” to the request of many. The quote makes me come to an understanding and accept that, it will always be people’s choice to either like or hate me and it is something that I can’t control.

With this reminder from the Daily Stoic, I came to learn that it is not worth to spend time dwelling on my past, trying to please people, hurling myself trying to move the immovable things ~~ Those things will not be adding any value to me. Letting things happen doesn’t mean we are not in control anymore (like at all!) but it means we can be happier by spending the time to focus that part of our day which are still within our control.

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